Marathon update part three

by Cara McDonough

I promised monthly updates on my training, I know, and then I skipped over July and August. The real reason is more along the lines of: I forgot to do it. But I think at this point I can also say that I didn't have time to do it. Because of all the running. And watching "Stranger Things" 

The NYC marathon is now less than two months away and since I last wrote about my training, I've gone through quite a few stages in the process. I'm not a fast runner and probably never will be, but as the mileage-per-week increased throughout the summer I started to get a little quicker and more confident. I ran a ten-mile race in August and felt great the whole time, something I've never accomplished in any of the races I've completed. There's usually a moment or two, or 100, where I want to die. But this time I really enjoyed it. I made a buddy around mile six who was also in training for NYC, and chatting with her helped those latter miles click by. At mile nine, my very fast friend Tom (HI TOM!) who had somehow finished the race like two hours before me - I think I've got the math right on that - ran with us for awhile, cheering the whole way. And I was like, "Yes! This is why people get into this! The camaraderie and physical fitness! Running is the BEST!"

Cut to later that month when I was attending the Bread Loaf Writers' Conference (an amazing experience that deserves its very own post). The campus is nestled in the gorgeous mountans of Vermont, which meant that running in any direction involved long, intense hills. There was also a lot of wilderness, which was excellent for channeling Thoreau but bad for my fear of bears and murderers. I had some unforgettable talks with some wonderful new friends on those runs, but jogging up mountains was tiring after about a quarter mile. This caused me to reconsider the newfound strength I thought I'd gained. Then there were a couple mornings where I was supposed to go four miles and I went about two because I swear to you there was an animal in a bush that could have killed me

So I was a little behind when I got home. No big deal, I thought. I completed a 12-mile run that Sunday, however, which you could call "contemplative" in its nature if you were being poetic, or "a hot and hellish slog" if you were being realistic.

I had to do 13 the following weekend and J mapped out a nice course that took me along the shoreline. I felt really good for the first seven miles. The last six were rough. It was, once again, a sweltering day and I should have refilled my water bottle sooner than I did, got pretty thirsty and experienced a rather depressing half hour at a slow shuffle with sweat and sunscreen running into my eyes, feeling like I was on some kind of desert vision quest; that my exhaustion, if I were lucky, might morph into a mystical experience with mirages and a shaman to guide me home. Instead I made it to a local seafood take-out counter and got a bottle of water. I finished but was starting to reconsider the idea of running for fun. For FUN. Who are these idiots?

Also! When would it be the part where I get to eat a lot of cupcakes without repercussions? And the part where I start looking like a super athlete? I thought I was going to be able to brag about my toenails falling off, at least, but they are still there. 

I think – as with so many challenges – I kept wondering when the big payoff would arrive, ignoring the steady rate of improvement. I'm not an athlete in my normal life (to the dear friends who are remarking that this is an understatement I can TOTALLY HEAR YOU) and the simple fact that I could go these distances without a hospital visit was a sure sign that I was doing alright. started getting better. In my most recent weeks of training, I’ve had some strange thoughts, indicative of a new mindset, one that I think is necessary to endure this insanity. Last weekend I ran a half-marathon in Maine, joking when I signed up, “This course is well-marked, right? Because I could get lost!” The kind people in charge assured me it was. Still, most of the participants went the wrong way about twenty minutes in. This was a hilarious and and bonding moment for all of us, and we were eventually redirected, but upon arriving at the “Mile 3” signpost, a fellow runner informed us all that her GPS had us at five miles. Five! Not three. Once the crowd had thinned out and I found myself running solo, enjoying woodsy enclaves interspersed with inlet views, I thought, without even remotely the proper amount of alarm, "I guess I’m doing 15 miles today.” I just kept on running, including an upbeat stretch near the end when I decided to put in my earphones for awhile and listen to the new pop music I'd been introduced to at a recent family wedding (THANK YOU MEGAN AND STEVE AND JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE! Plus: future post coming on my lack of knowing the new Macklemore like the rest of America.) 

And then, just the other morning, having set my alarm for 5:30 a.m. but, when the unholy hour arrived, regarding the clock with pure menace and not getting out of bed at all, I started too late for that day’s prescribed seven-mile run. I’d never make it back in time to help out with the kids’ first day of school if I took it easy. “Ok,” I thought,“I’ll just have to run this seven miles fast." What? 

Maybe I don't feel like a long distance runner in the way I thought I would, but the obvious fact surfacing here is that I can now run long distances. These persistent actions have yielded the correct outcome and despite the fact that I did not believe it possible during the last hour of that 13-mile seaside death jaunt, it seems that, come November, I will be able to run 26 miles. 

It's a less glorious getting-there than I'd envisioned, but I am finally enjoying the sneakiness of this progress, the way these newfound habits have crept into my daily routine, sometimes as boring and all-important as the rest of it. 

Before the Maine half-marathon-actually-15-miler, my father, one of the most accomplished people I know, still constantly worried about his daughter's well-being and confounded by the lunacy of my recent endeavors, gave me this advice: "Remember, you can quit anytime. You don't have to prove anything to anyone."

I'm a fan, as you know, of completing goals, but am also averse to the cheerfully trite aphorisms that fitness-related challanges can inspire. I liked my father's advice far better, and perhaps that's where I'll find my understated glory: that along these stretches of rugged New England coast and on the rocky paths of forests full of imagined predators, bumbling along the asphalt alone with my thoughts, engaged in podcasts or listening to music that makes me feel slightly foolish, I am reminded more often than I'd like to admit that I can quit.

Then I walk a few strides. Think about the most mundane and beautiful rewards, like an ice-cold Gatordade. And keep going. 

Marathon update part two

by Cara McDonough

And here's what I wrote in June when I was beginning to understand. 

June 29, 2016

Last time I wrote, running a marathon was kind of an abstract idea. Like, "Ok, you're gonna run 26 miles several months from now. NO PROBLEM!" But since then I've started some preliminary training, and remembered that a 20 minute run feels a lot different than an hour long run...that running two miles is much less taxing than running seven...and that preparing to run 26 miles is a pretty big deal. 

The good news is that so far, making this commitment, scheduling runs and getting out there feels really good. 

You know how it goes. It's usually easier NOT to do something. A five-mile-run vs. coffee while watching more news coverage of the 2016 political circus? I'll take the latter.  

But I can't, because I've committed to this thing, and while I can wing it with certain activities (pretending I'm into crafting, for instance, or that I know the rules of tennis) I can't wing running a marathon. I've got to put the miles in first. 

It's hard to get out the door, especially with all my responsibilities at home. Once I do, though, it feels great. Maybe not at first, but a mile or so in I get my stride. I remember that choosing to work towards this feels sooooooo incredibly worth it. 

As you know, one of the reasons this whole process means so much is because I'm raising money for the American Cancer Society in memory of my Uncle Jimmy. As of today I'm at nearly half my goal of $3,200! My plan is to achieve that goal by August, and keep fundraising from there. 

To those of you who have donated so far: You're amazing! Thank you SO MUCH! 

To those of you who haven't and are able, please know that your donation means the world to me, and helps the ACS with all the incredible, life-changing work that they do. 

You can visit my fundraising page and make a donation here. 

Thanks for listening, for donating and for supporting me. More to come in July, when I will update you on the new running gear I plan to buy, such as one of those cool armbands for my iPhone, and possibly some kind of fanny pack. 

Marathon update part one (looking back...)

by Cara McDonough

A few months ago I began updating friends and family about my marathon training and fundraising via email, and it has occurred to me that collecting those emails here on my blog would be a fun way to remember the debilitat - um, the magic. 

So here's the first email I wrote back in May, when I was just a naive young thing. 

May 20, 2016

Well, I've begun...I guess you could call this the pre-pre part of my training for the NYC Marathon on November 6, which will begin for real with an 18-week program starting in July. 

This is the part where I'm still able to wake up on a morning when I've planned a run, and, feeling not quite up to it, decide that drinking coffee in bed would be a far superior thing to do. It is pretty great, but on the early mornings I do nudge myself into my sneakers and out the door, I never regret it. 

Right now I'm just trying to get running back into my routine; I'm hoping to begin marathon training with a solid 15 miles or more per week and that's not exactly where I am right now. You could call where I am right now something like: runs-whevever-she-feels-like-it-and-often-to-get-out-of-the-house-away-from-loud-children. But you've gotta start somewhere, right?

As many of you know, I'm running this marathon as a fundraiser for the American Cancer Society. I'm still working on getting the $3,200 mininum I need to qualify for guaranteed entry to the race. Thanks so much to those of you who have donated already! Your generosity has gotten me off to a great start. 

If you haven't donated yet, and can manage even a small amount towards my goal, I'd be incredibly appreciative! Click here to link to my personal fundraising page where you can do just that!

Beyond the most important reason - supporting the ACS and the incredible, life-changing work they do for people with cancer - you're helping me a marathon! Which, insane as it might be, is a personal goal of mine this year. 

I'll be sending out just one email a month to ask for donations. So this is it for May, I promise!

And here's one last thought: 

One of the reasons I like running so much is that it's a great time to think. Because I'm running this race for the ACS, and in memory of my Uncle Jimmy, I think about him a lot during my runs, and about his family, my amazing cousin Meredith and her amazing mom, my Aunt Jan. 

When I think about them, it sincerely brings an extra bounce to my step. I have to be careful when this happens, because I am exceedingly clumsy and have fallen down during runs due to nothing more than, say, a small chip of asphalt that gets underfoot. 

But running for my Uncle Jimmy really does makes me happy, and brings so much meaning to this whole thing. This is important, because, 26 miles is...far. 

Inconcievably, though, I can't wait. 

thoughts that occured before 7:30 a.m this morning

by Cara McDonough

I feel stupid in this shirt


but sometimes you have to forgo your constitutional rights for like just a few seconds in the name of protecting our country you bastards


"smoothie in the diaper!" = that wasn't enough coffee I just had, it turns out


this is uncivilized THIS IS UNCIVILIZED


the shade of blue in this other shirt is the same shade as my pants which seems too matchy and bordering on senior citizen wardrobe territory


please, powers that be, I will sacrifice everything I have if I do not have to engage in this pants vs. shorts controversy for one moment longer, which I did not ask to be a part of in the first place and, while I am trying to be understanding about my five-year-old's strong feelings on the topic, is making me question all my life choices, all of them


it's only 7:23 a.m. and I have already waged war and carefully orchestrated necessary compromises, so I'm gonna wear a shirt that makes me feel good about myself!


the toddlers's got a ball point pen and I'm gonna let that one go  


choose your battles!


you are in control!


you are moderately in control


today is the day I sell a book idea


I have done a terrible job at not eating pork after I recently found out how smart pigs are


ok, concentrate, that was a practice run, day

The owl

by Cara McDonough

By Nora McDonough  


The owl the owl

With glasses as well

Sits on a tree and rings his bell  

The owl the owl

As smart as can be

Puts down his bell falls asleep on his tree