Five things I learned in my first year of marriage

1. It's ok to fight about the dishes, and how one person feels that they are having to do the dishes more than the other person, even though you hate conversations that begin, "We always fight about the STUPIDEST things!" because come on, nobody wants to hear it - but it's true, everybody does fight about that, and it might even be a good sign that your marriage is headed in the right direction. 2. It was a good idea to buy cheap wedding rings. 3. You don't have to do everything according to the norm. Like it's ok if you want to have eight bridesmaids or quit your job and go to Maine for a month or eat dinner a lot of nights at, like, 9 or 10 p.m. because that's just when the two of you get around to it. The most important thing is to have a lot of fun, and

4. if married to the right person, having fun is exceptionally easy.

5. I'm not really sure people should do that thing where they eat the wedding cake on their one-year anniversary. I just went and got ours out of the freezer and took a peek, and I don't know if there's any way in hell I'm eating that, and furthermore we could drive down the street and get perfectly good cake that was made recently, and I'd much rather do that.

(happy anniversary J, one day later)